Your Self-Worth and Your Income
Have you ever realized that often, jerks make a lot of money?
You most likely have seen a person who is an absolute jerk and is also incredibly wealthy. It can be infuriating knowing that you are a hard-worker but your bank account does not show it. So, why do jerks get ahead?
One common theme with money is whoever has the most confidence usually has the most income. Why? They know money will come and they know they are worth having money. They aren't chasing it, they aren't wishing for it, they aren't feeling sorry for themselves that they don't have it. They know money will come time and time again.
Jerks don't have to be the only ones that make tons of money. In fact, there are many non-jerk individuals who also have tons of money! Their key differentiator is that they also have confidence. Confidence is key to gaining more wealth but, often, confidence is tricky because it doesn't just appear out of thin air. There are many ways to increase your confidence and by doing so, you can also increase your overall income:
1. Identify What you have to offer
Get clear about what YOU have to offer in a work environment. This isn't "I can code" or "I'm a nurse." It should be "I am a great communicator." What you are looking for is transferable skills that will be useful no matter what work function you do. Jerks are usually great at one thing and use that one thing for many different industries. Whether it be your listening skills, sales capability, explaining capability, or attentiveness, you should know where you excel.
2. Become more Self-aware
Do you speak to yourself in a negative manner? Do you put yourself down for every mistake you make? Normally, how you treat yourself is how others will treat you. Jerks do not apologize for their mistakes or highlight their weaknesses. Instead, they focus on their strengths. Are you focusing on your strengths or your weaknesses? Start by being kind to yourself. From the kindness comes confidence.
3. Get feedback from people you trust
Another way to increase your self-worth is by getting feedback on your performance from people you trust. You may be surprised how positively people view what you do! It could be something like "you are always here to listen to me" or "I couldn't get my job done if it wasn't for your help." You can also ask for their advice on how you might be able to improve. It is crucial this is coming from people you trust or it may put you into a deeper spiral of not feeling worthy of money.
4. Move on!
If your job or your career is no longer serving you or supporting you, move on! One of the telltale signs of lack of confidence is staying at a position far past its expiration date. Move on and realize you deserve more and it is okay to request more money and work to meet that!
Remember that jerks are NOT the only ones who make money. Making money is not a bad thing, it can actually be a sign of self-respect. Let's learn from jerks! If you work on your self-confidence your net worth will come up with it.
Does your self-worth and income match?